Obat Ampuh Usai Patah Hati

Perceraian, putus dengan pacar, atau perpisahan dengan orang terkasih memang sangat menyakitkan, bahkan kerapkali memunculkan krisis identitas.

Pernahkah Anda merasa sangat rapuh sejak berpisah dari pasangan? Atau, mungkin Anda menjadi sering bertanya siapa Anda dan apa yang akan Anda lakukan setelah berpisah dengannya.

Percayalah, Anda tidak sendiri. Sebuah artikel yang ditulis Slotter pada Journal Personality and Social Psychology melaporkan, biasanya orang akan memiliki pandangan yang 'kelabu' tentang dirinya sendiri setelah mengalami perpisahan. Mereka kerapkali susah mengganti 'kita' menjadi 'saya,' saat berbicara tentang diri mereka.

Saat hubungan berakhir, orang cenderung ingin berubah dan melepaskan segala sesuatu yang berhubungan dengan mantan pasangan.

Semakin besar komitmen yang ditinggalkan, maka semakin besar pula keinginan untuk berubah saat hubungan berakhir. Namun, hal ini justru yang sering mengakibatkan stres berkepanjangan dan menghambat 'proses pemulihan' saat perubahan-perubahan tersebut tidak mengubah apapun.

Wanita lebih sulit untuk mendefinisikan pandangannya kembali dibandingkan pria. Hal ini yang membuat mereka terlihat sangat rapuh.Wanita merasa tidak ada yang sebanding dengan sakit hati yang ia rasakan sehingga pikiran dan logika terfokus dengan mencari cara untuk bangkit.

Lalu, bagaimana menangani stres karena krisis identitas setelah perpisahan? Berikut tips dari Dr. Jeanette Raymond seperti dilansir laman Yourtango.

1. Ceritakan tentang perpisahan Anda pada orang lain. Namun, jangan terus mencari kesalahan

'sang mantan' karena hal tersebut hanya akan membuat Anda lebih sakit hati. Dengan bercerita Anda akan mencoba mencari diri Anda dan menganggap cerita pahit tersebut hanya bagian dari pelajaran hidup Anda. Pengalaman bercerita akan menciptakan memori baru, dan membantu memenjarakan memori yang telah terjadi dengan mantan pasangan.

2. Katakan pada teman bahwa Anda yakin telah mengambil keputusan tepat dan telah merencanakan hal baik untuk diri sendiri.

Saat Anda mendengar Anda berbicara dengan penuh percaya diri tentang rencana-rencana hidup, akan terbentuk saraf-saraf baru pada otak yang akan membantu mengatasi rasa takut dan ragu. Memberi pikiran dan energi positif dengan memikirkan langkah ke depan lebih baik daripada hanya menoleh ke belakang dan meratapinya.

3. Diskusikan pro dan kontra yang muncul saat bercerita.

Anda akan mengetahui sisi positif dan negatif dari perpisahan sehingga membantu proses pemulihan. Pembicaraan tersebut akan membuka jendela baru untuk membantu Anda melihat dan membangun identitas personal sehingga Anda akan merasa lebih kuat dan percaya diri.

4. Buatlah daftar karakter Anda yang bernilai dan dapat membantu Anda di masa depan.

Penghargaan terhadap karakteristik Anda membantu mengetahui posisi Anda dalam hubungan. Selain itu, Anda harus melakukan instrospeksi dan mengubur beberapa aspek dari diri Anda untuk dapat masuk kembali dalam sebuah komitmen.

Buanglah sifat-sifat yang mengakibatkan sebuah hubungan seperti berjalan di tempat. Milliki apa yang Anda miliki dengan kebanggaan. Percayalah bahwa Anda dapat menarik perhatian pria lebih baik.

Sumber : yahoo

Rapunzel

 Rapunzel

A long time ago there lived a young couple, a man and his wife, his wife was expecting their baby. She wanted a plant that only grew in her neighbor's garden, she wanted it so much. She even intended to steal it herself, but later on, she sent her husband to steal it.

Unfortunately, mother Gothel, the owner of the garden, caught him doing it. She was a witch. Then, mother Gothel forced the couple to give their first baby to her.

A few months later, the baby was born. It was a girl and named Rapunzel. Soon, this baby was taken away to live with mother Gothel. Rapunzel grew to be a beautiful young girl with her long golden hair. At first she was cared for in a normal way. When she reached puberty, she was locked in the forest. It could only be entered by climbing on Rapunzel's long hair. To cheer herself up, she loved to sing.

One day, a young prince was out hunting. He stumbled upon the tower. He heard Rapunzel's beautiful voice. He decided that he must meet her. He spied and, by watching Mother Gothel, learned the words he has to say to have Rapunzel drop her hair. The Prince visited her often and the two fell in love.

Then, Rapunzel; made a plan to escape from the tower. She wanted to be with the prince. She asked the prince to bring her a skein of silk each time he visited. She might weave a ladder for her escape. Unfortunately, Mother Gothel caught on Then, she banished Rapunzel to the desert. She prince blind and he marred the earth searching for his love.

Eventually, they found each other, and prince's eyes were healed by Rapunzel's tears of happiness.

Monkey and Crocodile

 Monkey and Crocodile

One day a monkey wanted to cross a river. He saw a crocodile in the river, so he asked the crocodile to take him across the other side. The crocodile told the monkey to jump on its back. Then the crocodile swam down the river. 

Now, the crocodile was very hungry, so when it was in the middle of the river, it stopped and said to the monkey, ”Monkey, my father is very sick. He must eat the heart of the monkey. Then he will be strong again.”
The monkey thought for a while. Then he told the crocodile to swim back to the river bank.
“What’s for?” asked the crocodile. 

“Because I didn’t bring my heart with me,” said the monkey. “I left it under the tree, near some coconuts.”
So, the crocodile turned around and swam back to the bank of the river. As soon as they reached the river bank, the monkey jumped off the crocodile’s back and climbed up to the top of a tree.
“Where is your heart?” asked the crocodile. 

“You are foolish,” the monkey said to the crocodile. “Now I am free and you have nothing.”
The monkey told the crocodile not to try to fool him again. The crocodile swam away, hungry.

Bawang Merah and Bawang Putih

Bawang Merah and Bawang Putih

Bawang Putih lived with her step mother and her step sister, Bawang Merah. Bawang Putih's mother died when she was a baby. Her father remarried another woman and later her step sister was born. Unfortunately, not long after that her father died. Since then, Bawang Putih's life was sad. Her step mother and her step sister treated Bawang Putih badly and always asked her to do all the household chores.

One morning, Bawang Putih was washing some clothes in a river. Accidentally, her mother's clothes were washed away by the river. She was really worried so she walked along the river side to find the clothes. Finally she met an old woman. She said that she kept the clothes and would give them back to Bawang Putih if she helped the old woman do the household chores. Bawang Putih helped her happily. After everything was finished, the old woman returned the clothes. She also gave Bawang Putih a gift. The old woman had two pumpkins, one pumpkin was small and the other one was big. Bawang Putih had to choose one.

Bawang Putih was not a greedy girl. So she took the small one. After thanking the old woman, Bawang Putih then went home. When she arrived home, her step mother and Bawang Merah were angry. They had been waiting for her all day long. Bawang Putih then told about the clothes, the old woman, and the pumpkin. Her mother was really angry so she grabbed the pumpkin and smashed it to the floor. Suddenly they all were surprised. Inside the pumpkin they found jewelries. "Bawang Merah, hurry up. Go to the river and throw my clothes into the water. After that, find the old woman. Remember, you have to take the big pumpkin," the step mother asked Bawang Merah to do exactly the same as Bawang Putih's experience. Bawang Merah immediately went to the river. She threw the clothes and pretended to search them. Not long after that, she met the old woman. Again she asked Bawang Merah to do household chores. She refused and asked the old woman to give her a big pumpkin. The old woman then gave her the big one. Bawang Merah was so happy. She ran very fast. When she arrived home, her mother was impatient. She directly smashed the pumpkin to the floor. They were screaming. There were a lot of snakes inside the pumpkin! They were really scared. They were afraid the snakes would bite them. "Mom, I think God just punished us. We had done bad things to Bawang Putih. And God didn't like that. We have to apologize to Bawang Putih," said Bawang Merah.

Finally both of them realized their mistakes. They apologized and Bawang Putih forgave them. Now the family is not poor anymore. Bawang Putih decided to sell all the jewelries and used the money for their daily lives.

Three Fish

Three Fish

Once three fish lived in a pond. One evening, some fishermen passed by the pond and saw the fish. ‘This pond is full of fish’, they told each other excitedly. ‘we have never fished here before. We must come back tomorrow morning with our nets and catch these fish!’ So saying, the fishermen left.

When the eldest of the three fish heard this, he was troubled. He called the other fish together and said, ‘Did you hear what the fishermen said? We must leave this pond at once. The fishermen will return tomorrow and kill us all!’ The second of the three fish agreed. ‘You are right’, he said. ‘We must leave the pond.’

But the youngest fish laughed. ‘You are worrying without reason’, he said. ‘We have lived in this pond all our lives, and no fisherman has ever come here. Why should these men return? I am not going anywhere – my luck will keep me safe’.

The eldest of the fish left the pond that very evening with his entire family. The second fish saw the fishermen coming in the distance early next morning and left the pond at once with all his family. The third fish refused to leave even then.

The fishermen arrived and caught all the fish left in the pond. The third fish’s luck did not help him, he was caught and killed.

The Smartest Parrot

The Smartest Parrot

Once upon time, a man had a wonderful parrot. There was no other parrot like it. The parrot could say every word, except one word. The parrot would not say the name of the place where it was born. The name of the place was Catano. 

The man felt excited having the smartest parrot but he could not understand why the parrot would not say Catano. The man tried to teach the bird to say Catano however the bird kept not saying the word.

At the first, the man was very nice to the bird but then he got very angry. “You stupid bird!” pointed the man to the parrot. “Why can’t you say the word? Say Catano! Or I will kill you” the man said angrily. Although he tried hard to teach, the parrot would not say it. Then the man got so angry and shouted to the bird over and over; “Say Catano or I’ll kill you”. The bird kept not to say the word of Catano.

One day, after he had been trying so many times to make the bird say Catano, the man really got very angry. He could not bear it. He picked the parrot and threw it into the chicken house. There were four old chickens for next dinner “You are as stupid as the chickens. Just stay with them” Said the man angrily. Then he continued to humble; “You know, I will cut the chicken for my meal. Next it will be your turn, I will eat you too, stupid parrot”. After that he left the chicken house.

The next day, the man came back to the chicken house. He opened the door and was very surprised. He could not believe what he saw at the chicken house. There were three death chickens on the floor. At the moment, the parrot was standing proudly and screaming at the last old chicken; “Say Catano or I’ll kill you”.

How to Make Orange Tea

How to Make Orange Tea

Ingredients:

1.    1 orange,
2.    Sweet tea,
3.    Soda drink (use uncoloured soda),
4.    Ice.

Tools: Jug, knife, spoon, and drinking glass.

Method:

1. Cut the orange into circle shapes, try to cut it thinly.
2. Put the cut orange and ice into jug.
3. Pour the soda drink into the jug.
4. Add the already prepared sweet tea.
5. Stir the ingredients in the jug well.
6. After pouring the orange tea in a glass, you can decorate the brim of the glass with left over orange pieces.

Sangkuriang and Tangkuban Perahu

The Story of Sangkuriang and Tangkuban Perahu Mountain

Once, there was a kingdom in Priangan Land. Lived a happy family. They were a father in form of dog,his name is Tumang, a mother which was called is Dayang Sumbi, and a child which was called Sangkuriang.
One day, Dayang Sumbi asked her son to go hunting with his lovely dog, Tumang. After hunting all day, Sangkuriang began desperate and worried because he hunted no deer. Then he thought to shot his own dog. Then he took the dog liver and carried home.

Soon Dayang Sumbi found out that it was not deer lever but Tumang's, his own dog. So, She was very angry and hit Sangkuriang's head. In that incident, Sangkuriang got wounded and scar then cast away from their home.

Years go bye, Sangkuriang had travel many places and finally arrived at a village. He met a beautiful woman and felt in love with her. When they were discussing their wedding plans, The woman looked at the wound in Sangkuriang's head. It matched to her son's wound who had left severall years earlier. Soon she realized that she felt in love with her own son.

She couldn't marry him but how to say it. Then, she found the way. She needed a lake and a boat for celebrating their wedding day. Sangkuriang had to make them in one night. He built a lake. With a dawn just moment away and the boat was almost complete. Dayang Sumbi had to stop it. Then, she lit up the eastern horizon with flashes of light. It made the cock crowed for a new day.
Sangkuriang failed to marry her. She was very angry and kicked the boat. It felt over and became the mountain of Tangkuban Perahu Bandung.

Snow White

 Snow White

Once upon a time there lived a little girl named Snow White. She lived with her aunt and uncle because her parents were dead.

One day she heard her uncle and aunt talking about leaving Snow White in the castle because they both wanted to go to America and they didn’t have enough money to take Snow White.

Snow White didn’t want her uncle and aunt to do this so she decided it would be best if she ran away. The next morning she ran away from home when her aunt and uncle were having breakfast. She ran away into the woods.

Then she saw a little cottage. She knocked but no one answered so she went inside and fell asleep.
Meanwhile, the seven dwarfs were coming home from work. They went inside. There they found Snow White sleeping. Then Snow White woke up. She saw the dwarfs. The dwarfs said, “What’s your name?” Snow White said, “My name is Snow White.”

Doc, one of the dwarfs said, “If you wish, you may live here with us.” Snow White said, “Oh could I? Thank you.” Then Snow White told the dwarfs the whole story and Snow White and the seven dwarfs lived happily ever after.